Many people talk about the need for protection against “negative” energies, especially for the Empath. This has never resonated well with me and I could not figure out why. After giving it considerable thought, I have come to the conclusion that it is because the word ‘protection’ seems to come from a place of fear, as does the word ‘negative’. I do not walk through my life in fear- which doesn’t mean I haven’t experienced it, just that it is a fairly uncommon feeling for me. While I agree that emotions range from pleasant to unpleasant and vibrationally high to low, I think they are all valuable and to name them negative or positive may be misleading. As a result, I have not been very successful at attempts to cloak myself in a ‘protective’ bubble- since that would mean to me that first I would have to remember to be fearful, or that I have reason to consider fear, and second that I was unwilling to experience any of the lower vibratory feelings. Regardless of where you stand on those descriptions, there continues to be a need for ways to deal with energies that don’t belong to you- especially if you are an Empath.
I have experienced many times when the overflow of strong emotions from others have left me feeling overwhelmed. I also have had moments when I felt intense anxiety, apprehension, irritation or sadness that I could identify as clearly not belonging to me. Although I would agree that these are emotions on the lower half of the vibration spectrum, as I said I consider them normal and part of being human. They may not feel comfortable, but to me they are not negative. Feeling is what we are here for, isn’t it? Managing those feelings and learning the lessons they bring are part of the deal. I don’t think we can expect to relish the love, joy, exhilaration, excitement, etc. to the same extent if we deny hurt, sadness or loneliness entirely.
When I am feeling emotions that don’t belong to me and don’t feel good (after all, I’m not about to reject an excess of joy, love or excitement!) I take a moment. I take a deep breath and with my exhale I send out love and Light to the source of the emotions (even if I can’t identify the source) and release them to be transformed by Source energy. Then I take another breath and imagine that I am a glowing ball of Light and Love and I send it out in all directions. In this way, it seems to me that the intensity of the energy flowing outward from me prevents anything that doesn’t belong to me from affecting me. I am, in a sense, protected and if that word seems right to you, feel free to use it. To me it just feels like I’m walking around in my own little world feeling only what has meaning and purpose to me. I can still sense when someone needs my attention and healing, and I can offer it, but their need doesn’t attach to me. I can also revel in the beauty and joy of being alive here and now. This helps keep me in balance energetically. Try it. I hope it helps you as well!
In November I will begin a monthly support group for empathic folks that will include opportunities to explore what that means and how to remain balanced while embracing the gift of heightened emotional sensitivity.
Wishing you Light and Love,